Everyone agrees that confidence is sexy, but how do you become more confident and where does it come from?

Real confidence can be fleeting, short lived, and if you lose it, so incredibly difficult to find again.

Some people just seem to have it while most of us have to work at it.

This list of confidence tips is filled with inspiration and aha moments that are perfect for saving and revisiting anytime you are feeling down or doubting yourself.

So if you're in need of a little lift, here are the 21 best confidence boosters to help you feel more confident right now:

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Don't let that be your story. Life is short. Take risks. You never know just how amazing something might turn out to be. If you even have the slightest shot at getting something that will bring you joy, risk it!

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Embrace your uniqueness. Be a unicorn in a field of horses.

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Just start. Start before you're ready because you will never be perfectly ready. Let today be the start of something new and something amazing.

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One thing you can't fail at is being yourself. We're all trying to become someone new rather than the person we are meant to be, but forgot how to be. Learn to become more you. Accept yourself first... then other people will.

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Don't take anything personally and never base your self worth on the opinions of others. Happiness is an inside job. Don't give that power or responsibility to someone else.

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Fear is not real; it is a choice. We make things scarier than they really are. Facing your fears makes them less frightening and makes you more confident.

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Arrogance requires advertising. Real confidence speaks for itself. Those who are putting you down are just trying to bring you down to their level.

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Have the courage to be the person you've always wanted to be.

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Perhaps the seed of doubt was planted in your mind without you knowing and you identified with it. This is why it's important to, every now and then, blow your own damn mind.

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Take a look in the mirror. That is your competition. The sooner you master your thoughts, the sooner you master yourself.

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Remaining calm when everyone expects you to lose it, is a true sign of confidence. This becomes much easier when you've been there before. If you haven't, act like you have.

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Failure is the first step to success. Learn from it.

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What you think about, you will become. What you feel, you will attract. And what you can imagine, you can create.

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Despite what advertisers will tell you, self-confidence is the one outfit you cannot buy. That is why confidence can be so fleeting. Everything eventually goes out of style except for true self-love.

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Aim to express yourself rather than trying to impress others.

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Live by your own rules. Blaze a trail of your own brilliance, and always take the scenic route.

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Confronting your fears is the only way to achieve true confidence in life. How amazing would you feel if each day you did something that scared you and conquered that fear?

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EVERYONE experiences self doubt. But if you ever think you're too small to make a difference, try going to bed with a mosquito in the room.

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Love yourself. The first step to self-confidence.

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Confidence shows not just in your words but how you say them. Say it like you mean it.

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If you think you will fail, chances are you will. Aim high in life, you will surprise yourself.